“I’ve lost all confidence in myself.” If that thought has been on repeat in your head lately, know you’re not alone. And know that just because you’ve lost it, doesn’t mean you can’t get it back. I know exactly what it feels like to wake up one day and wonder where tf your confidence has gone. There’s been many moments in my life where I’ve felt like my self esteem has hit rock bottom and I don’t have an ounce of self confidence left. 

At 29, my life completely fell apart. My plans to move to Bali with my boyfriend of five years disappeared overnight when he ended our relationship, over a Facebook Messenger call. Overnight, the life I thought I was going to have just disappeared. I couldn’t have felt more behind if I tried. But choosing who I was going to become, rewriting my future story and embracing a fresh start, stopped me from letting that bombshell destroy my 30s. I’m about to show you the first step to making your 30s the greatest decade of your life — you ready?

I’m guessing there are a lot of things you’ve thought about doing in your 30s: quitting your job to start a business, switching careers, dating differently, moving abroad, making a shit tonne of money, or maybe just cutting your hair short and dyeing it pink. But here’s the thing: it’s not the how that’s stopping you, it’s the fear of judgement. I’m about to share one powerful sentence that can destroy that fear in seconds, so you can live your 30s however the fuck you want to.

Being the villain in your thirties doesn’t mean you’re evil. It doesn’t mean you’re out here intentionally hurting people or being rude for the sake of it. What it really means is this: you’re finally prioritising your needs, speaking up for yourself, and refusing to settle into a life that doesn’t make you happy. If you’ve been people-pleasing, settling, or staying quiet when you should have spoken up, now’s the time to step into your villain era.

You not taking yourself out on regular solo dates in your thirties is something we need to sort out ASAP. Solo dating isn’t just a cute TikTok trend, it’s a radical act of self-worth and confidence. Keep reading as I break down the beliefs and barriers stopping you from dating yourself, show you simple tricks to remove solo date anxiety, and help you schedule your very first solo date.

If you’re a single 30-something, child-free, maybe living with your parents, and you’ve been made to feel like you’re “behind” because of it—or worse, convinced yourself that you’re late to life because you’re not where you thought you’d be—this is for you.

As a 30-something, if you’ve ever sat there and thought to yourself “Why do I feel so lost?”, “Everyone else seems to have figured it out.” or “I should know what I want by now.”, this is the episode for you. The truth is you’re not behind, you’re not a failure and you’re definitely not alone. 

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a "got a boyfriend yet?" or watched everyone around you tick off life milestones while you’re still getting your shit together, this one’s for you.

There’s a version of you out there who already has everything you’re craving. She’s walking into rooms feeling magnetic, grounded, calm, and proud of who she is. She’s not waiting for life to happen, she’s already living it. But here's the thing most people won't tell you: that version of you isn't “out there” in the future. She’s already within you.

If you're in your 30s and constantly feel like you're playing catch-up with life, trust me, you're not alone. The pressure to have it all figured out, achieve every milestone, and tick all the boxes by a certain age can leave you feeling like you're behind. But what if you're not actually behind... you're just stuck in some sneaky habits that are keeping you feeling that way?

Ever found yourself lying in bed, phone in hand, scrolling through everyone else’s amazing life on Instagram or TikTok and suddenly thinking… “Why does my life feel so average?”

If that sounds familiar, first of all: you're not alone. And second, let’s not stay stuck there.

There’s been a quiet transformation happening behind the scenes lately. Not a flashy 12-week glow-up. Not a six-figures-in-six-days type rebrand. But a slow, intentional, soulful shift back to who I really am, and the most confident I’ve ever felt in myself.

All I could think about was moving to Mexico. Or Bali. Or Vietnam. And for a second, an old pattern began to show. You see, I've had experiences like this many a time. Moments where I'm reminded that where I'm currently at in life is far a-fucking-way from where I dream of being.

Just because you’ve hit your 30s and haven’t checked off the so-called ‘big milestones’ doesn’t mean you’ve failed. And it definitely doesn’t mean you should have done your 20s differently. If you’re feeling behind because of the life your sibling is living, keep reading.

If you dread the question, "Seeing anyone yet?" every time you meet up with friends or family, you’re not alone. For many women in their 30s, being single comes with an unwelcome side of societal pressure and unsolicited opinions. But these simple yet powerful mindset shifts will help you stop panicking about never meeting "the one" and start embracing this chapter of your life with confidence.

Gone are the days of obsessing over what Kelly from school thinks when you post a photo on Instagram. Or holding back your ideas in a meeting because you're worried about being judged. Or masking who you really are around your friends just to fit in. You're in your 30s now—it’s time to let go of caring what anyone else thinks. Starting today.

I'd rather be delusional in my dreams than settled in a life that doesn’t bring me excitement, peace, or joy. And if you're in your 30s, it's time for you to embrace that same mindset. Keep reading to find out why being a little delusional is actually the secret to getting everything you want.

Ever scrolled through Instagram, seen a perfectly polished woman with her dream career, an aesthetic apartment, and a fiancé who proposed on a mountain in Italy, and thought, I should have my shit together like her? Yeah, we’ve all been there. But here’s the truth: comparison is a confidence killer, and it’s time to stop.

Feeling lost in your 30s? Doubting your decisions? Sick of waiting for confidence to magically appear? You’re not alone. You feel like you should have your shit together by now, like confidence should come naturally and yet, here you are, second-guessing yourself, avoiding risks, and watching others live the life you wish you had. That ends today.