You don’t feel behind because you’re not there yet. You feel behind because you’re still letting Instagram decide where “there” even is. But we’re not doing that anymore. We’re washing our hands, starting fresh, and getting you out of this spiral of thinking you’re not good enough or haven’t achieved enough. Because here’s the truth: you are not behind.

If you’re a single 30-something, child-free, maybe living with your parents, and you’ve been made to feel like you’re “behind” because of it—or worse, convinced yourself that you’re late to life because you’re not where you thought you’d be—this is for you.

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a "got a boyfriend yet?" or watched everyone around you tick off life milestones while you’re still getting your shit together, this one’s for you.

If you're in your 30s and constantly feel like you're playing catch-up with life, trust me, you're not alone. The pressure to have it all figured out, achieve every milestone, and tick all the boxes by a certain age can leave you feeling like you're behind. But what if you're not actually behind... you're just stuck in some sneaky habits that are keeping you feeling that way?

Ever found yourself lying in bed, phone in hand, scrolling through everyone else’s amazing life on Instagram or TikTok and suddenly thinking… “Why does my life feel so average?”

If that sounds familiar, first of all: you're not alone. And second, let’s not stay stuck there.

All I could think about was moving to Mexico. Or Bali. Or Vietnam. And for a second, an old pattern began to show. You see, I've had experiences like this many a time. Moments where I'm reminded that where I'm currently at in life is far a-fucking-way from where I dream of being.

If you're in your 30s, still living at home, and feeling ashamed about it, you’re not alone. Society might have fed you the idea that by now, you should own a house, be married, have kids, and basically have your entire life figured out. But let’s be real: life doesn’t work like that, and it’s time to ditch the unnecessary shame.