As a 30-something, if you’ve ever sat there and thought to yourself “Why do I feel so lost?”, “Everyone else seems to have figured it out.” or “I should know what I want by now.”, this is the episode for you. The truth is you’re not behind, you’re not a failure and you’re definitely not alone. 

If you've ever found yourself spiralling after missing red flags in dating (especially after all the therapy, solo healing and personal growth work you’ve done) this one's for you. Maybe you’re thinking, “How the fuck did I fall for that?” or “I should’ve known better.” 

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a "got a boyfriend yet?" or watched everyone around you tick off life milestones while you’re still getting your shit together, this one’s for you.

I used to wonder if the kind of man I wanted to date even existed, or if I was just asking for too much. Whilst I very much believe my dream relationship exists, I’d never actually had my own proof that that was the case. But a recent Hinge match proved something powerful: it’s not about lowering your standards, it’s about holding them—and trusting that the right person will meet you there.

There’s a version of you out there who already has everything you’re craving. She’s walking into rooms feeling magnetic, grounded, calm, and proud of who she is. She’s not waiting for life to happen, she’s already living it. But here's the thing most people won't tell you: that version of you isn't “out there” in the future. She’s already within you.

If you're in your 30s and constantly feel like you're playing catch-up with life, trust me, you're not alone. The pressure to have it all figured out, achieve every milestone, and tick all the boxes by a certain age can leave you feeling like you're behind. But what if you're not actually behind... you're just stuck in some sneaky habits that are keeping you feeling that way?

Ever found yourself lying in bed, phone in hand, scrolling through everyone else’s amazing life on Instagram or TikTok and suddenly thinking… “Why does my life feel so average?”

If that sounds familiar, first of all: you're not alone. And second, let’s not stay stuck there.

There’s been a quiet transformation happening behind the scenes lately.

Not a flashy 12-week glow-up. Not a six-figures-in-six-days type rebrand. But a slow, intentional, soulful shift back to who I really am, and the most confident I’ve ever felt in myself.

All I could think about was moving to Mexico. Or Bali. Or Vietnam. And for a second, an old pattern began to show.

You see, I've had experiences like this many a time. Moments where I'm reminded that where I'm currently at in life is far a-fucking-way from where I dream of being.

Just because you’ve hit your 30s and haven’t checked off the so-called ‘big milestones’ doesn’t mean you’ve failed. And it definitely doesn’t mean you should have done your 20s differently. If you’re feeling behind because of the life your sibling is living, keep reading.

If you dread the question, "Seeing anyone yet?" every time you meet up with friends or family, you’re not alone. For many women in their 30s, being single comes with an unwelcome side of societal pressure and unsolicited opinions. But these simple yet powerful mindset shifts will help you stop panicking about never meeting "the one" and start embracing this chapter of your life with confidence.

Gone are the days of obsessing over what Kelly from school thinks when you post a photo on Instagram. Or holding back your ideas in a meeting because you're worried about being judged. Or masking who you really are around your friends just to fit in. You're in your 30s now—it’s time to let go of caring what anyone else thinks. Starting today.

Do you ever feel like being single in your thirties is some kind of punishment? Like you’re behind, it’s too late, or maybe—just maybe—there’s something wrong with you? Watching your friends get married, settle down, and have babies can make it feel even harder. It can leave you feeling like the last one standing.

I'd rather be delusional in my dreams than settled in a life that doesn’t bring me excitement, peace, or joy. And if you're in your 30s, it's time for you to embrace that same mindset. Keep reading to find out why being a little delusional is actually the secret to getting everything you want.

Last year, I got a message on Instagram from someone going through a divorce. They wanted to feel confident in themselves again, navigate dating without attachment issues, and—most importantly—not need another person’s attention to feel wanted. So in this post, I’m sharing exactly what I would do in their situation.

Ever scrolled through Instagram, seen a perfectly polished woman with her dream career, an aesthetic apartment, and a fiancé who proposed on a mountain in Italy, and thought, I should have my shit together like her? Yeah, we’ve all been there. But here’s the truth: comparison is a confidence killer, and it’s time to stop.

If you're in your 30s, still living at home, and feeling ashamed about it, you’re not alone. Society might have fed you the idea that by now, you should own a house, be married, have kids, and basically have your entire life figured out. But let’s be real: life doesn’t work like that, and it’s time to ditch the unnecessary shame.

Feeling lost in your 30s? Doubting your decisions? Sick of waiting for confidence to magically appear? You’re not alone. You feel like you should have your shit together by now, like confidence should come naturally and yet, here you are, second-guessing yourself, avoiding risks, and watching others live the life you wish you had. That ends today.