You don’t feel behind because you’re not there yet. You feel behind because you’re still letting Instagram decide where “there” even is. But we’re not doing that anymore. We’re washing our hands, starting fresh, and getting you out of this spiral of thinking you’re not good enough or haven’t achieved enough. Because here’s the truth: you are not behind.

You don’t have to wait for the big milestones to start living your best life. You don’t have to wait until you’re married, until you’ve bought a house, until you’ve had children, or until you’ve travelled to 40 countries. You don’t have to wait until you’ve hit any kind of milestone to start living a life you love, a life you’re obsessed with, a life that feels good every single day.

I know myself well enough to know I’m not gonna stick to this five-year plan, but sometimes having one anyway just makes me feel good about myself. I’m sharing how I’ve used my five-year vision to map out an actionable plan that feels exciting, doable, and not overwhelming (even with ADHD).

One of my absolute favourite exercises is vision building. And to make sure I don’t wake up at 40 thinking, oh my god, why has my life not changed in the last five years?, I’m creating a brand new five-year vision to anchor me into the future I want. And because I know I’m not the only one who feels like this (aka scared of being stuck in the same place) I’m taking you along with me in this process.

It feels a little bit scary admitting this, but honestly? I am scared that nothing will change in the next five years. I realised the other day that in five and a half years’ time, I’ll be 40. And if I think about where my life is right now, if I got to 40 and it was exactly the same as it is now, I’m terrified.

We’ve all made mistakes, right? My twenties were mistake after mistake and whilst I’m definitely still making some in my thirties, there are 7 mistakes I’ve stopped making so I thought I’d share those with you. Not because I’ve got it all figured out because let’s be honest, I definitely don’t, but because I’ve stopped pretending that I should have it all figured out.

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a "got a boyfriend yet?" or watched everyone around you tick off life milestones while you’re still getting your shit together, this one’s for you.

I used to wonder if the kind of man I wanted to date even existed, or if I was just asking for too much. Whilst I very much believe my dream relationship exists, I’d never actually had my own proof that that was the case. But a recent Hinge match proved something powerful: it’s not about lowering your standards, it’s about holding them—and trusting that the right person will meet you there.

There’s been a quiet transformation happening behind the scenes lately. Not a flashy 12-week glow-up. Not a six-figures-in-six-days type rebrand. But a slow, intentional, soulful shift back to who I really am, and the most confident I’ve ever felt in myself.

All I could think about was moving to Mexico. Or Bali. Or Vietnam. And for a second, an old pattern began to show. You see, I've had experiences like this many a time. Moments where I'm reminded that where I'm currently at in life is far a-fucking-way from where I dream of being.