I used to wonder if the kind of man I wanted to date even existed, or if I was just asking for too much. Whilst I very much believe my dream relationship exists, I’d never actually had my own proof that that was the case. But a recent Hinge match proved something powerful: it’s not about lowering your standards, it’s about holding them—and trusting that the right person will meet you there.

Just because you’ve hit your 30s and haven’t checked off the so-called ‘big milestones’ doesn’t mean you’ve failed. And it definitely doesn’t mean you should have done your 20s differently. If you’re feeling behind because of the life your sibling is living, keep reading.

If you dread the question, "Seeing anyone yet?" every time you meet up with friends or family, you’re not alone. For many women in their 30s, being single comes with an unwelcome side of societal pressure and unsolicited opinions. But these simple yet powerful mindset shifts will help you stop panicking about never meeting "the one" and start embracing this chapter of your life with confidence.

Do you ever feel like being single in your thirties is some kind of punishment? Like you’re behind, it’s too late, or maybe—just maybe—there’s something wrong with you? Watching your friends get married, settle down, and have babies can make it feel even harder. It can leave you feeling like the last one standing.

Last year, I got a message on Instagram from someone going through a divorce. They wanted to feel confident in themselves again, navigate dating without attachment issues, and—most importantly—not need another person’s attention to feel wanted. So in this post, I’m sharing exactly what I would do in their situation.