Relying on other people to make you feel good is 20-something behaviour. You’re in your 30s now, it’s time to build a deeper connection with yourself, improve your confidence and increase your sense of self-love. Instead of waiting for somebody else to tell you that you're hot, to make you feel happy, or to help you improve your health, it’s time to look at how you can do all those things for yourself, right now.

If you want to be hot, happy, and healthy in your 30s, there are some toxic mindsets you’ve gotta break up with, immediately. And I’m not talking about a little mindset tweak here or a little tweak there. I’m talking about full-on breakup energy. Block their number. Delete the contact. Move the fuck on. And never look back again. Because these mindsets are like bad exes. They drag you down, play on your mind all day, and stop you from living the life you actually deserve to live.

At 29, my life completely fell apart. My plans to move to Bali with my boyfriend of five years disappeared overnight when he ended our relationship, over a Facebook Messenger call. Overnight, the life I thought I was going to have just disappeared. I couldn’t have felt more behind if I tried. But choosing who I was going to become, rewriting my future story and embracing a fresh start, stopped me from letting that bombshell destroy my 30s. I’m about to show you the first step to making your 30s the greatest decade of your life — you ready?

You don’t actually hate how you look. You hate the way society has trained you to feel about the way you look. Think about it. From the moment us millennials were old enough to flick through a magazine, we were bombarded with “ideal” body types and edited images that made us question every inch of ourselves. It’s no wonder so many of us carry this quiet (or not-so-quiet) war with our own reflection. But your body isn't the problem. It never had been.