If you've ever found yourself spiralling after missing red flags in dating (especially after all the therapy, solo healing and personal growth work you’ve done) this one's for you. Maybe you’re thinking, “How the fuck did I fall for that?” or “I should’ve known better.” 

Last year, I got a message on Instagram from someone going through a divorce. They wanted to feel confident in themselves again, navigate dating without attachment issues, and—most importantly—not need another person’s attention to feel wanted. So in this post, I’m sharing exactly what I would do in their situation.